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If you feel God is telling you a certain relationship in your life is wrong and that you should end it, would you? Are you newly divorced or even dating while separated and finding you should have waited to date because you are not ready?
Now that I have been separated for just shy of a year (will be a year in three months), I am looking forward to a new chapter in life of contentment and I have only reached peace through God’s help. Our divorce is not final so I am not dating, but I still plan to wait for God’s timing even after it is final. I hope to use the boundaries suggested in DivorceCare class.
It is so important to make sure you do not begin an unhealthy relationship because you are hasty, lonely, angry, or whatever reason. Make sure that before you get involved with anyone else, you yourself are in a healthy place Spiritually and that you do not find yourself using bargaining tools with God for your future relationship status. I will elaborate more on this concept because it is so very important.
Please know that If a person wants to follow Christ and change their way of living for the better, this is a one-on-one decision between themselves and God. No one else should factor into the decision, and “deals” should not be made with God as determining factors. Begging God to answer a prayer in exchange for living right, should not determine one’s answer to the call to salvation. It is a personal decision a person makes about their own future, ultimately their eternity. “For God so loved the World that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. John 3:16″ There is nothing in that verse that says their decision is based upon other people in their life acting in a way that they expect them to first before they agree to accept the Lord, it is strictly between oneself and their maker. Please do not make the mistake of denying Christ because of what you feel are disappointments in your life, things you see as obstacles preventing you from reaching out to Christ. If He is beckoning you to Him, please do not ignore Him. Continuing down a sinful path is not the answer when you are under conviction. It will only lead to more misery and pain. I recall when I began my journey as a Christian, Hell became more evident to me than ever before and I knew I needed God to change my sinful nature. I could not do it, He had to change me. It was as if He wrapped His arms around me, hugged me and said everything would be alright. I felt a cleansing that I cannot explain and I knew I had been washed clean. I had been introduced to Jesus and He was now in my heart. For the next few years we got to know each other very well and I love Him more every day. I love that song “I can’t even walk without you holding my hand” for in the tough times I have faced especially in the past year, it is so very true of how I feel about my walk with my Jesus. I feel this way on good and bad days, I love to share life triumphs with Him, as well as bring my burdens at his feet. He wants us to cast all our cares to Him, even the smallest things. He loves us so very much.
Just as I want to encourage those out there struggling with this decision to not put conditions on their eternal security, the decision to walk with Christ should also not be flippant. It is a lifelong and life altering decision, and once made, will put you on a new path, one that unburdens you of chains and He will not leave you nor forsake you, but will be with you always. He does not promise it will be an easier path, but you can find JOY in the LORD, unspeakable JOY. I personally want to bask in THIS JOY. Where the path now may seem hopeless, He will provide hope and He provides a way where there seems to be no way. He works in ways we cannot see and He will make a way for us. Put your trust in Him today and begin your WALK with Him, start your journey with Him from here to eternity. If you need someone to talk to, I encourage you to speak with your local pastor, find someone you trust and that will keep your confidence if need be. Act on your convictions and do not delay. What better way to be prepared for a right relationship in your future than to first put your trust in the Lord and walk with Him? Continuing this path for months and even years would be ideal before venturing into the dating field, why don’t you focus instead on getting to know your Savior?
Please know I write in Christian love and am praying for my readers often.
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